For mutual last night, we played the "Candy Bar Men" game. I remember playing this when I was in Young Women and it is still fun to watch today.
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Candy Bar Men
1. Get several different kinds of candy.
2. Write out descriptions of what that candy bar might be like as a husband. There are several examples here. Because of availability, I wrote out several more descriptions for the candy I could find. (see below)
3. Let the young women pick out a candy bar or cut the descriptions up and let each girl choose one out of a bowl.
4. Have the young women take turns reading their "husbands."
Since we have done this once with a few of our girls, I chose to make them draw their husbands out of a bowl. After we went around, I had each leader share one thing that has helped to make their marriage successful. Then we completed Integrity #7 in our personal progress books.
After we were done the young women looked through wedding picture albums of the leaders and the young women asked us to share our proposal stories.
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Candy Bar Descriptions
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Candy Bar Descriptions
AIRHEADS- This guy is
handsome and rich. You got married in the temple but he can’t seem to remember
any important dates- like your birthday or your anniversary. He doesn't think
it is a big deal since he brings home the money each month. He tells you to go
buy your own presents so that he won’t have to remember them. He is constantly
changing jobs trying to find the “perfect one”. He does have his good qualities
though, like making sure you live close to your parents and playing with the
kids.
Junior Mints-
This guy has a fun personality which makes up for the fact that he is short. He
works several small jobs to put himself through school because he believes
education is important. He loves your two kids and is saving up to take the
family to Disneyland when he graduates. He likes to be clean and sometimes
takes too long checking himself out in front of the mirror. He makes sure to
take you out for your weekly date night and loves you dearly.
Good & Fruity-
This guy is full of games and fun. He loves to play sports, take you to visit
new cities, and live in the moment. He plans fun last minute dates and loves to
cook exotic food. Every time you try to talk about the future he shrugs you
off. You eloped at city hall but he won’t sit down to talk to you about getting
sealed in the temple. He hopes for kids sometime in the future but tells you
not to stress about it now. He always has friends staying at your house and it
is always noisy.
Nerds- This guy
graduated top of his class in high school and in going to law school right now.
He doesn't care about fashion and you have to make sure you check him to make
sure he matches before he leaves the house. You are working right now to put
him through school and hope that he’ll be able to get a job as soon as he
graduates. You live in a tiny apartment but it is filled with love and support.
He doesn't have free time for dates but lets you have girl’s night out. You are
waiting to have children. He serves when he can in the church.
Sour Patch Kids- This guy is working on being more
positive. You recently got married in the temple after he had a sour divorce.
He has 6 children and you are trying to figure out how to become an instant mom
in all of this. He is bitter about his divorce and the problems that it brings
but he tries helps out at home. He hopes one day to feel less-stressed. At the
end of the day he is usually too tired to want to talk or do anything with you.
He faithfully goes to work, brings home the money, and tries to make sure his
bad attitude doesn’t rub off on the family.
Jolly Rancher-
This guy is a cowboy who moved you out on a ranch in the middle of no-where. He
has a swearing problem but tries not to cuss in front of you or other ladies.
He doesn’t go to church because he says it too far to drive and he can’t leave
the animals that long. He shows you off at expensive restaurants and loves to
take you dancing. He doesn’t want kids at the moment and says that he has
enough work with the ranch. He’s positive though and makes you feel good about
yourself when you are around him.
Starburst-
This guy has a dreamy voice. You meet at a stake talent show where he sang “That’s
What Makes You Beautiful” and you feel head-over-heels in love! He decided to pursue
Broadway and is in the traveling tour. You live in a travel trailer following
the group. Because of all the traveling you don’t see your family or friends
much. He takes you to the closest chapel on Sundays but because of the
performances, he is only able to usually go to Sacrament meeting. He says that
when the children start going to school, he will find a local career and a
place to settle down.
Butterfingers-
This guy is clumsy. You met at a stake dance and he kept stepping on your toes.
He was sweet about it and apologized each time. He wanted to make it up to you
by making sure you had a fun night. He won your heart and soon you were
married. You never go dancing but he loves to play board games with you after
the kids go to sleep. He has to travel for his job so you rarely get to go out
on dates. He loves his calling as cub scout leader but you usually have to
prepare his activities. He doesn’t help out with the cooking or cleaning but he
helps keep the children busy.
Almond Joy-
This guy is not the most fit and has a quirky personality. He is positive and
tries to find happiness in any situation you face. He has recently lost his job
but he is working hard to find new employment. He compliments you every day and
likes to leave you silly love notes. You never know what crazy idea he’ll come
up with next but he always make sure you are happy. He is active in the church
and loves working with you in your calling as nursery workers.
Crunch- This guy is
respectful and wants to best for his wife. He is a hard worker. You met through
a dating website and got married quickly. He was in a car accident that put him
in a wheelchair. He doesn’t let it affect his attitude and his fun, positive
personality draws other people to immediately like him. You have to help him
with things around the house. He serves in the young men’s presidency and takes
you to the temple monthly.
Take 5- This guy is a cool
and has an amazing tan. He loves surfing and going to the beach. He proposed to
you on a moonlit night during a dinner cruise. He doesn’t want to go to college
but makes enough to pay the bills. He likes to do surfing competitions and
wants to move to Hawaii someday. He has a relaxed personality and helps keep
you calm when you stress about things. He is supportive. Though you have not
been able to have children he says it is okay and maybe one day you will adopt.
He doesn’t want to take the time to visit your family who live far away but
sets aside money so that you can go whenever you want.
